“When a man ignores you ignore him back.”
It’s a piece of advice that’s been circulating for quite some time now, but is it actually a good idea?
I’ve been in many a pseudo-relationship where the guy I’m interested in suddenly disappears for no apparent reason, only to resurface once I stop talking to him. So yeah, if you wanna catch a guy’s attention, ignoring him actually works.
But just because it works doesn’t mean that it should be your go-to move when a guy gives you the cold shoulder.
Why “When A Man Ignores You Ignore Him Back” Is Terrible Advice
Let’s look at some different scenarios, shall we?
1. He comes back to you after you ignore him — now what?
Guys who come back after being ignored usually do so because they’ve realized that they’ve lost something, and that’s not a good feeling. But just because they come back doesn’t mean that you’re going to live happily ever after.
After you start showering him with attention, he may very well change his mind and leave you hanging yet again. Watch out for these types of guys who go back to you just because they miss the attention — not you.
Of course, “ignoring” a guy could simply show him that you’ve got a life. It’s been well-documented that giving each other space is good for relationships, so perhaps he just appreciates that you’re not texting him from morning to night. And if you happen to not text him at all one weekend, that could show him that you’ve got other stuff going on in your life, and that your world doesn’t revolve around him.
Either way, you don’t want to start off a relationship with mind games, because you’ll probably have to keep playing them to keep the relationship going. Relationships should be a partnership, not something you should “win”.
What you should do: If you sense that a guy is playing mind games with you, the best thing you can do for yourself is just walk away and move on. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life, trust me.
2. He could be ignoring you because he doesn’t want to look desperate.
Some guys have been burned after showing girls how much they like them, so they pull back a little so they don’t look too aggressive. With guys like this, ignoring them back could be translated as a rejection, so if you’re attracted to him, don’t ignore him.
What you should do: Reach out to him and ask him what’s going on. Perhaps he could just be feeling a tad insecure, and you making the first move could be just what he needs to move your relationship forward.
3. He might not even notice you ignoring him.
Maybe he’s just not into you, and what seems like active “ignoring” to you might be just him going about his day, unaware of your feelings.
What you should do: Communicate your feelings to him. And if he doesn’t reciprocate them, that’s just life. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, right?
The Bottom Line
Here’s the thing: Ignoring someone just because you feel neglected is passive-aggressive and poisonous to any potential relationship. When a man ignores you, just ask him what’s going on. Communicate, and you’ll have a better idea of what you should do next.
What do you think of the advice “when a man ignores you ignore him back”?