8 Easy-To-Miss Signs Of A Cheating Partner That You Should Watch Out For
Are you missing these subtle signs of infidelity?
For relationships to work, we need to learn to give our partners the benefit of the doubt, and simply trust that they’ll be faithful to you. But if you have an unfaithful partner, it’s better to learn earlier rather than later. There are the obvious signs (e.g. smelling another woman’s perfume on him, him changing his phone’s security code), but some red flags are harder to spot. Here are some subtle signs of a cheating partner in a relationship that you should keep your eyes peeled for.
8 Easy-to-Miss Signs of a Cheating Partner in a Relationship
1. She accuses you of cheating.
Cheaters often accuse their partners of being unfaithful to put their partners on the defensive so their own behaviour isn’t put under scrutiny. They could also become more insecure as they project their own guilt on you.
(Even if your partner wasn’t cheating on you, this is totally unhealthy behaviour and is an indication of a toxic relationship.)
2. He suddenly has a bunch of random new interests.
23-year-old Naomi says that she knew something was wrong when her (now ex-)boyfriend suddenly decided that he wanted to join a yoga class near his workplace. “Before, he would tell me that he thought yoga was silly and boring, and out of the blue, he was suddenly enrolling in this class,” she says. Turns out that his office girlfriend went to that studio.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with discovering new hobbies and interests, but if your partner is suddenly all hyped up over something that they’d previously had 0 interest in, perhaps you should investigate.
3. She wants to know what you’re doing all the time.
There’s a huge difference between your partner showing interest in your day and keeping tabs on your every activity. The latter is unhealthy, and could be a way for your partner to figure out when he could sneak off and see his other lover.
4. Your relationship problems suddenly disappear.
When 33-year-old Mindy found out that her fiance had been cheating on her, she was completely blindsided. “The last few months before I found out were so good,” she says. They had stopped arguing about their issues, and she had assumed that he had finally seen the light.
But when things suddenly become better, that could be an indication that your partner has checked out and is less invested in your relationship. Or it could mean that he’s trying to make up for his bad behaviour by treating you better. Either way, you might want to have a conversation with your partner to understand what’s going on.
5. …Or they suddenly become extra nitpicky.
If you feel like you suddenly can’t do anything right, that could mean that your partner is looking for reasons to justify their bad behaviour. He’ll give you grief over the smallest things, even things that you never knew he was bothered by.
And if you actually mess up — as humans often do — he won’t brush it off and forgive you easily. Instead, he’ll blow it up and make you feel like the crappiest girlfriend there is. Regardless of whether or not he’s cheating on you, you deserve to be treated better, so find the strength to walk away.
6. Your relationship started off as an affair.
That old adage “once a cheater, always a cheater” is often true. If your partner has a history of cheating — or even if it was just a “one-time thing” with you, you should stay on your toes.
7. He starts paying more attention to his personal appearance.
Once you get more comfortable around your partner, it’s normal to let go a little and put less effort in your looks. That could mean spending less time in the gym or wearing sweats all the time. If your partner randomly starts paying attention to his looks once again, that could mean that he’s trying to impress someone new.
8. She stops sharing her feelings with you.
One of the most heartbreaking signs of a cheating partner in a relationship is when they stop confiding in you. That could mean that your partner is sharing his stories — his problems, his dreams, his victories — with someone else. Even if they’re not physically cheating on you, that’s a sure sign of emotional infidelity, and a sign that you should reevaluate your relationship.
Do you recognises these signs of a cheating partner in a relationship?