Self love. The two most powerful words that often allude us and yet bring out an inner conflict.
They force us to think about the difference between what we want and what we need. On the one hand we are wired to think about the former. But on the other, our left-brained logical side pressurises us to consider the latter.
Let me give you an example. When I was a kid and I wanted something, my mum would always ask. "Do you really need it?" "Or is this something you want just for the heck of it?" Obviously, as a kid I didn't need a robotic car. But I sure did want it.
That same feeling exists even today.
Validation From Others Has Become A Necessity
As an adult, I often end up asking myself, "Do I really need this or do I just want it?" The internal battle still rages on-- whether its for food, or clothes, or makeup. We look at other things or objects to make us feel good about ourselves. And that's fine too. You should do what makes you feel good. If buying clothes makes you feel good, do it. Buying makeup or shoes makes you happy, don't think about it twice.
But more often than not, this conflict of self love hits the one thing that is perhaps most dear to us, our relationships.
We often look at others to feel good about ourselves. Validation has become a necessity that we are constantly seeking out.
This might sound ridiculous, but there is something to be said about knowing that there is somebody who needs us to feel complete. And to be perfectly honest, every human feels this way, whether they admit or not. All of us need validation at some point in our lives.
But basing our own happiness on other people's validation of us often leaves us in a conundrum. We don't know how we feel or are unable to gauge our emotional state of mind. So the only thing that can save us from this is our own self.
But Self Love Is The Only Remedy To All Our Emotional Turmoils
Yes, its easier said than done (even for me). But at the end of the day, this is what we need and what we truly want. Our own validation.
We have to differentiate between feeling content with those around us and needing them in order to feel happy. It might take you some time to realise this, but self love a journey of discovery you must take to feel truly fulfilled.
So why is self love so important, again? Let's recap.
Self love can get you through tough times, it can get you through heartbreak. Your relationships would be healthier with you knowing that you are self-sufficient and don't need to be clingy. Plus, love coming from other quarters will be an added bonus. And finally, success will become more relevant because you are competing with yourself.
If these are not enough reasons to celebrate Valentine's Day with your own self, how about we introduce you to some women who have become the crusaders of self love?
This month, we're speaking with millennial influencers and celebrities who not only stand for self love, but also in their own unique way, enable it for everybody around them.
Whether its through their work, products, or principles, they are making a huge difference- one step at a time.
So come join us in this celebration of #selflove.