Here's What You Should Do When You're Being Mansplained To
So the mansplainer is at it again — what should you do to make it stop?
Every woman in the world has been subject to a phenomenon called mansplaining. There are tons of mansplaining examples floating around the internet to serve as evidence, yet the culprits still do it.
Mansplaining is when a dude assumes you don't know anything about a certain subject matter because you're a woman, and condescendingly explains it to you. Now the easy thing to do is to simply smile and let the man finish having his mini TED talk, but doing that just makes them more likely to become a repeat offender. The best thing to do is to respond.
Here's what you should remember.
1. Remember: Yes, mansplaining is an actual thing.
Plenty of men claim that mansplaining isn't real, and that men who mansplain just enjoy explaining things to everyone, not just women. While that may be the case for some mansplainers, studies have shown that practically all women have experienced it.
(If you're looking for mansplaining examples, this Twitter thread is a good place to start.)
2. Assert yourself.
"Hey, you really don't need to explain this, I know what I'm doing."
You're an intelligent, capable woman worthy of his respect, so don't be afraid to stand your ground and let him know that. If he's a decent guy, he should be able to back off and let you do your thing — without his unsolicited opinion.
3. Attempt to educate him.
"Hey, do you know what 'mansplaining' is?"
Many mansplainers aren't aware that they're mansplaining. Society has ingrained in them the idea that women know less about certain topics (say, politics), and so they just assume that they have to explain everything like you're a child — even if you happen to have a degree in political science. Get this: they think they're doing you a favour.
You could try to educate the mansplainer by alerting them to bad their behaviour. You don't have to get combative about it — just gently tell them that you don't need their input, and that they're mansplaining.
If they're confused, you could direct them to a flowchart like the one below.
I have had more than one male colleague sincerely ask whether a certain behavior is mansplaining. Since apparently this is hard to figure out, I made one of them a chart. pic.twitter.com/7DZ1RTrB3R
— Kim Goodwin (@kimgoodwin) July 19, 2018
Should he continue to mansplain things to you, he probably doesn't care about anything you have to say, and you're just wasting your time. Which brings us to the next item on the list.
4. Ignore him.
Even though you've done your best to educate him and see the error of his ways, some guys are just lost causes. You've got better things to do with your day than engaging with someone who's not willing to listen to your side. Don't waste any more of your time in an unproductive discussion, and walk away.
What do you think about these responses to mansplaining examples?
You might also be interested in this article: Why Men Need Feminism, According To Grrrl Gang Founder Mich Dulce