A Guide To Making New Friends In Your 20s And 30s — Cause It Ain't Easy
The friendships you make as an adult can be some of your best, so don't miss out!
Some people say that the friends you make in school are the ones who’ll stay with you for life, and while that may not be 100% true, we can’t deny that making friends as an adult can be pretty damn challenging, to say the least. Back in school, friendships just seemed to fall into your lap, but now that you’re in the real world, you’re starting to realise that making (and keeping) friends actually takes some effort. But with just a little patience and optimism, you’ll learn how to make new friends in your 20s and 30s in no time.
Making Friends As An Adult: How to Make New Friends In Your 20s and 30s
1. Pay attention to the people around you.
One easy way to make friends is to simply take a little more time to get to know the people who are already in your life — even if only peripherally. Get to know your neighbours. Ask your colleagues to grab a few drinks after work.
(Editor’s note: Some of my best friends are friends I met at my first job, so I totally can vouch for this method.)
2. Go back to school.
Making friends in school was so much easier, right? Now, we’re not saying that you should get another degree — just enrol yourself in a class! It could be anything from writing to French classes to even parkour.
Seeing the same faces regularly is a great start for a friendship, and the great thing about enrolling in these classes is that you all actually want to be there (which you can’t really say about high school and college). You’ll get to bond over common interests, plus pick up a new skill or two in the process!
3. Turn yourself into a regular.
Speaking of seeing the same faces regularly, you don’t actually have to join a class to do that. A more low-effort version of that method would be just to frequent the same places at a regular time — it could be a coworking space, a cafe, a spin class, etc. Over time, you and your fellow regulars will get used to seeing each other’s faces, which could lead to really great relationships.
4. There’s an app for that.
Everyone uses online dating apps nowadays, so why not use an app to meet someone you like, but platonically? There are quite a few apps dedicated to just that, like Bumble BFF and Patook. You just need to find one that have enough people in your area using it.
5. Know (and love) yourself.
So here’s the thing: plenty of people actually find it easier to make friends outside of school. They probably became a little more comfortable in their own skin, figured out their own style, and just really owned themselves. And people are attracted to that kind of confidence.
Figuring out how to make friends in your 20s, 30s, and older becomes extra tough if you’re not confident in who you are. But it’s not as scary as you think. Putting yourself out there is scary at first, but once you’ve got the hang of it, you’ll wonder what took you so long to break out of your shell.