Dating rules for women are now different. It is much tougher to find ‘the one,’ what with all those dating apps. But looks like China is all set to make this process easier for women.
In a country that still values marriage and children, and calls its older unmarried women or ‘sheng nu,’ two companies based in Zhejiang, China have declared a unique kind of leave for its single, childless female employees. This, taking after Dinglan Experimental Middle School’s ‘love leave’ that was started first last January 15.
Chinese Companies Change Dating Rules For Women
Declared by the Hangzhou Songcheng Performance and Hangzhou Songcheng Tourism Management, this step is to encourage their single female employees to date. They will be given an additional eight-day leave along with their seven-day Lunar New Year holiday period.
According to The South China Morning Post, the eight-day ‘dating leave’ would be granted to single female employees over thirty in ‘non-frontline’ positions working at the companies that operate the Song Dynasty Town tourist attraction.
It also claimed that these same female employees have relatively little outside interaction.
“The ratio of men to women in our company is about the same. Women employees mostly work in internal functional departments and some are show performers… some female staff have less contact with the outside world,” said Huang Lei, human resources manager of Hangzhou Songcheng Performance.
The dating leave has come as a welcoming surprise to the employees. Huang fully believes productivity will increase if employees were contented with their personal lives.
China’s ‘Leftover Women’ Might Benefit From This Proposed Leave System
The dating leave may seem like the last resort in a country that has seen a surge in unmarried females. The phenomenon was well documented by Chinese photojournalist Guo Yingguang. This, during her visit to Shanghai’s marriage market last March 2018.
The scenario exposed the lid on the harsh marriage market in China for ‘leftover women’ or ‘sheng nu.’ The demeaning term basically alludes to unmarried Chinese females over their late twenties and beyond.
It does not seem to matter as much that they are becoming more cultured, independent, educated, and well-traveled. That’s because the traditional path to success and happiness of marriage and babies for women still reigns in the country.
If this does not sound somber and unprogressive, we do not know what does. However, this news does bring back the topic of dating rules for women. Are there any? If so, what are they?
8 Dating Rules For Women That Are Both, Practical And Sensible
As if knowing what you want in a partner is not tough enough, putting yourself out there to find that one person is like an uphill battle. When everything and everyone seem so accessible nowadays, one would think dating would become less complicated. But alas, it is not.
Not to worry though, there is plenty you can do to make finding Mr. or Mrs. Right Forever a tad simpler. Just keep in mind the following tips if you are out dating and hoping to be in a successful relationship.
1. Carefully think about your wants and needs
To start your search for a good mate, you need to first understand what it even means to you personally, as you think about what you are looking for. List non-negotiables, values and qualities you want in a potential partner. Try starting with the top five qualities, and meditate and visualise on it, while you internalise and embody it on a higher level.
2. Work on self-love
The cliche that you have to love yourself before you can love another rings true. If you desire a happy and functional relationship, you need to mirror that with yourself first. Move on if you are already there. Otherwise, you might want to date yourself a little more.
3. Inform people
You do not have to make a public service announcement, but do not keep it a secret. If you are on the journey to find a significant partner, you will do well to let it be known. Be proud of your single status and do not be afraid to mingle around!
4. Get around places of interest
Depending on your interests, you can meet other like-individuals with similar interests if you hang out at places of interest. From music to fitness, you are bound to meet fun and interesting individuals!
5. Be careful of how you are perceived
Always be genuine when approaching a new person, and consider how you are perceived by others. Avoid sounding contrived. Also, eye contact may not be enough, so try smiling.
6. Stay open-minded
Too much rigidity around your dating requirements might result in you risking overlooking great matches. It is alright to have specific qualities you are looking for, but do not allow pickiness to get in your own way.
7. Be spontaneous
A structured life is beneficial to an extent, but there is a good chance you might be missing a potential mate. Try being spontaneous from time to time, and enjoy yourself on that night out with your girlfriends, or be a tourist for a day and explore your own city solo style.
8. Embrace dating out of your comfort zone
Consider challenging yourself to step out of your dating comfort zone. Try new things you have not done before, and as the experts like to say, put yourself out there! Be it a dating site, singles events, or using a matchmaking service, stay open to different possibilities.
Easier said than done, but you have to get vulnerable if you desire something. As the saying goes, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.